Shady Forever

In recent years a huge amount of reverse cell phone look-up websites have sprouted up which promise to give you all sorts of details on the cell number that you have found. Here’s the dilemma, are these websites hurting a lot of the trust that we used to have in our relationships?

Just a few years ago you would have never thought of checking your partner’s phone for suspicious numbers, or if you did then you’d know there would be very little you could do apart from sitting down with your partner and talking it out. This meant that your partner was involved in the process, they had a chance to give you their side of the story and to get the truth out into the open, as long as it was the truth and you believed them of course!

The emergence of these search websites mean that jealous partners can just check all of the cell numbers that are on their partner’s cellphone without them knowing and that may cause them to start coming to conclusions by themselves. For instance as soon as they discover a number from somebody of the opposite sex that they haven’t seen before, they would instantly start to conjure up images of all the awful things that could mean, in the past when you didn’t know then you still had a doubt in your mind that it was just one of their friends that you already knew so you had nothing to worry about.

Can this hurt the trust in a relationship? Well snooping around in someone’s phone is a suspicious act that you wouldn’t be doing unless you thought there may be some reason for them to have phone calls on there that they shouldn’t, so I think that anybody who is going to do it would have done it anyway. It does allow you to exclude your partner and not have to interrogate them, but in many ways this could be a good thing – as if you find out it is a harmless number then they don’t have to know that you’ve been anywhere near their phone, which really does destroy the trust if they catch you checking up on them.

In my opinion then the best way to handle it if you have any suspicions about your partner is to get them out into the open and discuss them, this means you don’t inadvertently break the trust of an innocent party, and you also get the chance for a guilty party to admit that they were wrong. If you still have reservations after that chat then ask them to hand over their phone so that you can check some of the numbers on it, if they are unwilling to do that then you may have a right to be suspicious.

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